Birthdays — who doesn’t love them?
I am sure I would get pretty good agreement from most people about enjoying birthdays, whether they are their own or for someone else. It’s usually a party, special drinks, presents, food. What’s not to love?
But not everyone does really love birthdays.
Sometimes it is a person who simply doesn’t like attention. Sometimes the birthday is a painful reminder of someone who has died. Maybe the birthday is too much of a reminder that life is going by too fast. So I do understand that everyone doesn’t want a big birthday party once a year.
My family always has a big run of birthdays when we get to late October. First there is my son on Oct. 28, my birthday is—well, son of a gun, it’s today! Yes, Nov. 3 is my birthday and today I will be filing for Social Security since I am 62 years of age!
No, just kidding. I’m not going to take my Social Security at age 62, but it is nice to know it is now sitting there for me to take if newspapers suddenly fall off the cliff and no one likes them anymore.
But something tells me that isn’t going to happen.
Back to birthdays–there is one in my family on Nov. 12 for my daughter Chrissy, and then one coming a little later on Dec. 5 for my daughter Vicky. And there is another one for a very good friend of mine that is also in November.
Yes, as I said, some people don’t like attention coming their way and insist “you better not do anything for my birthday.” But more on that in a minute.
My son had a big birthday last weekend on Oct. 28 when he turned 21. Michael is my youngest child who lives in Oklahoma City, now approaching three years married to the sweetheart he met online when he was in the 10th grade. Despite many people reacting with shock when he was 18 and telling us all “I’m moving to Oklahoma to marry Lauren,” that is exactly what he did.
And surprise, surprise, the couple couldn’t be happier with their third anniversary in January, and a baby on the way in March.
My birthday is on Nov. 3 (today for those of you grabbing this paper the day it hits the stands) and I would fall into that category of “don’t do anything special for me” although it doesn’t bother me if my wife holds a little family gathering or something like that.
When I turned 60 my daughters put on the most spectacular birthday party ever for me, thanks to friends helping out, and I must say it will forever go down as one of my most memorable days ever.
Chrissy will be 33 years of age on Nov. 12 and Vicky will turn 29 years of age on Dec. 5 and both of those girls will take all the attention anyone wants to pile on them in the way of a birthday celebration. I mean, come on, most young girls are all about that, aren’t they?
Then there is someone else I know very well who insists to minimize any celebration at all about a birthday party since she truly, truly doesn’t like any fuss being made when it comes to her (whups, I might have given it away a bit.) The truth is that she is the one who handles absolutely every big family celebration we have and always does it in a way everyone loves. She is the party-planning queen in our family.
So I’m facing a bit of a dilemma trying to figure out how to honor the wishes of this special acquaintance, whom I would really like to do something very nice for, but still respect her wishes.
Maybe if I wrote something in this column about how special that person was, and that she is honestly my best friend in the world, and I love spending time with her more than doing anything else. Maybe that would help. Do you think?
My condolences to the family of Lee Alexius, a special man to the City of Covington, who passed away last Friday night, Oct. 28 after a hard-fought battle with cancer.
I am still getting to know people in Covington, but I was fortunate enough to do a story with Lee in 2015 about his contributions to the city. I learned a lot about his family history here and left the interview knowing one thing—this was a humble man who truly got up each day to leave a positive mark on the city he loved.
That was obvious by 21 years as a public servant and I’m sure his family knows that far better than I do.
Best wishes to the family in this time that is always difficult for us all.
Kevin Chiri can be reached by e-mail at email@example.com.